Will I recognize my loved ones in heaven?

Everybody likes to be recognized (that is, unless you are trying to fool the paparazzi). There is something special about being remembered. I can recognize my wife from the back of her head, while standing in a crowded room. I’ve seen studies where people recognize their loved ones by viewing only their hands, or even by a simple touch or smell.

This is the award of precious relationships, something more valuable than Olympic gold.

It makes sense that Christians wonder whether we will recognize one another in heaven. It’s important to us that we will recognize our family and friends, and that our family and friends will recognize us. We desire these relationships to extend into eternity.

The question, "Will I recognize my loved ones in heaven" assumes that our heavenly existence is completely distinct from our earthly existence, but this is not how the scriptures portray the glorious translation. George MacDonald speaks to this well in asking, “Shall we be greater fools in heaven than we are on earth?” We sometimes think of heaven like it’s a new school in a new town, and it’s our first day of a new year. We are lost and nervous, and we don’t know anyone. But the Bible describes heaven more like a family reunion, where we intimately know our immediate family, but we have the added benefit of meeting other family members of which we’ve seen pictures and about which we’ve heard stories.

This resonates with one of Jesus’ descriptions of heaven, in which he told his disciples during their last meal together that they would dine together again during the Millennium, one future phase of heaven (Mt 26:29). He also said “many will come from east and west, and recline at the table with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob in the kingdom of heaven” (Mt 8:11). This connotes the disciples would recognize one another, and there will be socialization among all of heaven’s inhabitants.

Per Scripture, life in heaven is better than life on earth. In every way. And this especially includes our relationships. Paul says it this way: “For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face” (1 Cor 13:12).

If you have ever been in a bathroom where a hot shower was running, then you’ve probably wiped away steam from a mirror. The mirror is designed to exhibit a view, but the steam hinders the observation. The mirror still works, but the view is “dim.” Paul says this is like our “now,” that is our time on earth. On earth we know one another “dimly.” Steam particles cloud our vision. But “then,” that is in heaven, we will see one another “face to face,” which is a euphemism for “knowing fully.”

Therefore, the answer to the question, “Will I recognize my loved ones in heaven,” is not merely “yes,” but indubitably “yes.” If we recognize one another on earth, then we will not only recognize one another in heaven, but we will know one another fully. “Now I know in part,” Paul writes, “but then I will know fully” (1 Cor 13:12). This is the epitome of Paul’s legendary poem on “love,” which is the greatest of the Christian triad, which comprises “faith” and “hope.”

Faith and hope will one day conclude, but love is a heavenly characteristic that lasts forever. Especially in the context of relationships. It will “never fail” (1 Cor 13:8).

While Scripture doesn’t explicitly say so, it does implicitly express the notion that we will indeed recognize one another in heaven. The best example comes from Jesus after he received his heavenly body upon his resurrection. The scriptures show us Thomas (Jn 20:24-29), Peter (Jn 21:1-14), and five hundred other followers (1 Cor 15:6) recognized Jesus after his resurrection. While Jesus wasn’t in heaven, he was in his heavenly body, and so if he was recognizable on earth, then he is recognizable in heaven, too (Acts 1:9-11; Titus 2:13). The Bible states our resurrections will be like Jesus’ resurrection, and if Jesus was recognizable, it seems reasonable that we, upon receiving our resurrected bodies, will be, too (1 Cor 15:12-57; 1 Jn 3:2).

Jesus’ transfiguration buttresses this. Peter, James, and John recognized Jesus in his heavenly body, as well as Moses and Elijah, two men whom they had never met (which in itself is a curious thought … perhaps we will not only recognize our earthly friends and family, but every other saint, too) (Mk 9:1-13).

There are a couple of instances in which Jesus was not immediately recognized, but a close look at the episodes reveals there might have been a supernatural blinding. Mary initially supposed Jesus to be a gardener, but upon hearing Jesus call her name she immediately recognized him (Jn 20:1-18). The same is true for the individuals who walked with Jesus to Emmaus (Lk 24:15-16). The text says they “were kept” from recognizing him, not that Jesus was unrecognizable. At the end of the walk “their eyes were opened and they recognized him” (Lk 24:31).

Apart from a supernatural intervention, it seems Jesus, while in his heavenly body, was easily recognizable by those who knew him while he was in his earthly body.

One potential pitfall is these passages have to do with the recognition of Jesus upon the reception of his resurrected, heavenly body, something believers (both living and dead) don’t receive until the future rapture (of the living) or resurrection (of the dead) (1 Thess 4:13-17). Thus, the question becomes, do people in heaven recognize one another now, prior to the reception of their glorified, heavenly bodies? (2 Cor 5:8)

A handful of scriptures imply “yes.”

Jesus’ Parable of the Rich Man is a story that details life after death prior to the resurrection, and denotes the recognition of Abraham, the rich man, and Lazarus (Lk 16:19-31). Furthermore, Samuel was recognizable when the witch of Endor summoned him from the dead (1 Sam 28:8-17). This particular story is fascinating, because it personifies the pre-resurrected being of Samuel into an “old man” likened to his earthly form. Also, David seemed anxious to see his deceased child again one day, demonstrating he believed he would recognize him in the afterlife (2 Sam 12:23). These episodes have to do with life after death prior to the individuals receiving a glorified body, indicating heavenly recognition is not dependent on the reception of our glorified bodies, which means people in heaven likely recognize one another right now.

This proposition is reinforced by a common mantra in the Old Testament used to describe the experience of deceased saints. The Bible teaches Abraham (Gen 25:8), Ishmael (Gen 25:17), Isaac (Gen 35:9), Jacob (Gen 49:33), Aaron (Num 20:24), and Moses (Num 27:12, 13) were all “gathered unto [their] people” at death. This phrase is often interpreted as the respective saint being buried in a family cemetery of sorts, where his body is gathered with other bodies. However, a careful reading of the text shows this phrase occurs before the burial, indicating it might refer to something else. Moreover, in many of the burials the saints weren’t even buried in their family cemeteries, but in foreign places. Moses, for example, was buried in a valley in Moab, in a place “no man knows” (Deut 34:6). This suggests the phrase, “gathered unto his people,” might mean more than merely being physically buried with other deceased family members, but that the respective saints were spiritually gathered with loved ones with whom they recognized. It seems the phrase has more to do with heavenly recognition than it does with physical burial.

These pre-resurrected examples indicate that while we are recognized by our physical bodies, we are also recognizable by our souls, too. These passages also show that Scripture consistently implies that death does not exterminate our identity. If anything, death enhances it. Greg Laurie says it well: “Death breaks ties on earth, but renews them in heaven.”

If we recognize and know one another on earth, then we will unquestionably recognize and know one another fully in heaven. Several passages suggest this has always been the case, since the first time someone passed from earth to heaven.